In Part 1 of A Thousand Splendid Suns, Nana says the following to her daughter, Mariam: “Women like us. We endure. It’s all we have.” Select three distinct passages from Part 1 that show how this sentiment informs Mariam’s life and how it relates to the larger themes of the novel.
Giti
3/16/2018 10:59:38 am
“She understood what Nana meant, that a harami was an unwanted thing; that she, Mariam, was an illegitimate person who would never have legitimate claim to things other people had, things such as love, family, home, acceptable.”
Roshanak
3/19/2018 07:26:59 pm
It is sad how much Miriam ends up distrusting her family. Like you said, her mother and father constantly contradicted one another, but we also see that her father seems to be a master of lies. After her mother dies, her father’s wives very quickly marry her away, saying that she is at a great age to get married, yet none of their children (all of similar ages) are being married off as quickly. This also shows how distrustful she becomes because of how they lied to her. She also ended up distrustful of her mother though. Her mother was a constant in her life, spending all her time with her daughter. It seems that her mother was only able to hang on to life though because of Miriam, which is why she forbade her daughter to see a movie with her father. We see that this was actually a good and truthful warning as her father never showed up, but it also showed how much her mom was lying to herself, as she killed herself as soon as she was left alone.
Shahmir
3/19/2018 10:16:38 pm
I decided to respond to this blog post because I truly agreed to what was being talked about. I find intriguing on how you speak of Mariam’s inability to feel comfortable with either her mom or dad. Mariam’s mother constantly speaks on the absence of Mariam’s father, and Mariam’s father states that he’s always been there for Mariam. I find this whole concept of distrust within Mariam’s family as interesting because she should feel most comfortable in her household, and with her mother and father. However, although Mariam is so used to her mother, and lives with her, she still continues to value the presence of her father, and trusts his word.
Kiriana
3/20/2018 08:52:30 am
Zarafshan
4/5/2018 09:48:11 pm
As sad as some of the obstacles of Mariam’s life are, I feel inclined to say that this response was very refreshing because it took a different route than sexism, focusing instead on the importance of Mariam’s lack of family or feelings of home in the novel. I really love how you drew this conclusion from the quotes most interpret only as gender roles and male domination over women.
Allysiah
3/16/2018 11:00:46 am
“Mariam kept thinking of his face in the upstairs window. He let her sleep on the street. On the street.” (Hosseini 35)
Roshanak
3/20/2018 05:37:33 am
It was very sad when her father did not show up for the movies. She had faith in her father and loved him, but he responded to that with dejection and cruelty, but still, it amazes me that even in a book, a man would let his daughter sleep and shiver in the cold, potentially in danger.
Kiriana
3/20/2018 09:03:16 am
Giti
3/28/2018 10:19:39 pm
I think these three quotes are very good indicators of the life and struggle that Miriam has lived. In her early life, she struggled to trust her own father and later, she found nothing but shame in her marriage. I also agree that her miscarriage was one of the most difficult scenes in the novel as she finally had some happiness and it was torn away from her that easily. I think that also shows how little actual happiness Miriam had in her life, as the simple idea of control (in the form of her child) gave her so much to look forward to.
Farahnoush
3/16/2018 01:27:41 pm
“Mariam kept thinking of his face in the upstairs window. He let her sleep on the street. On the street. Mariam cried lying down. She didn’t sit up, didn’t want to be seen. She imagined all of Herat knew this morning how she’d disgraced herself” (Hosseini 35).
Darsameen
3/22/2018 12:56:26 am
It's really sad when Mariam finally understands Nana's perspective of Jalil. In my opinion, a daughter views her father as her shelter and protection, but Jalil never provided that for Mariam. Jalil's presence made Mariam extremely happy, but after she truly discovered who he was, all her love turned to hate. Once again, Mariam is being rejected but this time, by her husband. After a few miscarriages, which are clearly hard to deal with, Rasheed simply rejects her instead of supporting her like a good husband. Mariam has been rejected from those who she thought truly cared about her, but hopefully, she becomes mentally strong.
Allysiah
4/2/2018 05:52:21 pm
This scene with Jalil did change Mariam, because it opened her eyes to the truth. Even though the truth was not as nice as the fictional amazing father figure she had conjured up in her head, it was not until Jalil allowed Mariam to sleep on the street rather than opening his door that Mariam saw Jalil's true colors.
Shahmir
3/16/2018 09:00:51 pm
“Learn this now and learn this well, my daughter: Like a compass needle that points north, a man’s accusing finger always finds a woman” (Hosseini 7).
Mahsheed
3/22/2018 10:44:02 pm
I love the quotes you chose, and the way you spoke about them, highlighting the strength Mariam holds throughout part one. By comparing the quote that focuses on women and men, you're addressing the bigger theme of the book of how roles are placed upon each sex. I think you have a great point when you speak about Mariam enduring "hell", yet never becoming a cruel version of herself. No matter how she was harmed by the men in her life, she stayed through it all, showing her strength and subtle determination to get through everyday. I believe we don't give Mariam enough credit for the strength she posses within the first part, and how much she continues to wrack up.
Zarafshan
4/5/2018 09:37:49 pm
I like your concentration on Nana’s words against the male gender; I agree that as a women who has done nothing by endure, she can teach her child only the same to expect in her future. However, I disagree that the theme of this novel is the hidden but true female power present in the characters of this novel; instead, I feel that their power is hidden by blankets weaves of years of male dominance and the oppression of women's rights to equality. Overall your take on the truthfulness to Nana’s words was accurate, leaving it very clear that women in Afghanistan during the time of Mariam’sl life were granted only with the strength to endure.
Mahsheed
3/17/2018 09:53:12 pm
Throughout Part 1, Mariam has continued to prove to the audience that she is a strong woman, through and through. As her mother said, they have to endure, because their endurance is all they have--it is all they can rely on. Even as a child growing up, Mariam has had to endure the venomous words of her mother. Nana was constantly reminding her of her place in their society, and how “to Jalil and his wives…[Nana] was a pokeroot. A mugwort. [Mariam] too. And [she] wasn’t even born yet” (Hosseini 8). This illuminates how she’s been constantly exposed to the harsh opinions of the world around her, casting pain onto her especially since the words came from her own mother. Her childhood depicts how much she is able to endure from the world, and still stand firm. It shows that she has learned early on in life that she must keep pushing on, no matter what is happening around her.
Parvana
3/19/2018 08:52:45 am
“Later, when she was older, Mariam did understand. It was the way Nana uttered the word—not so much saying it as spitting it at her—that made Mariam feel the full sting of it. She understood then what Nana meant, that a harami was an unwanted thing; that she, Mariam, was an illegitimate person who would never have legitimate claim to the things other people had, things such as love, family, home, acceptance”(Hosseini 4).
Mahsheed
3/22/2018 10:34:34 pm
I really like the quotes that you chose to answer this prompt. They're amazing and I feel as if they reflect Mariam's journey. I find it interesting how you spoke about Mariam mirroring her mother in the way that she can view the world a little negatively. Although, I don't think she had gained too much because she still has a naïve perspective on the life around her.
Kiriana
3/19/2018 09:04:24 am
Darsameen
3/22/2018 12:45:41 am
I agree with your response since Mariam seems to have endured many things at such a young age, from her mother's death to her arranged marriage. Basically, Mariam doesn't seem to be capable of living a normal life because the death of her mom continues to torment her and she continuously blames herself for it. I think Mariam will continue to allow her husband to physically abuse her because she doesn't know how much she is truly worth, since those who truly loved her are basically gone. Hopefully, she eventually realizes that she shouldn't blame herself for Nana's death and that she deserves happiness.
Giti
3/28/2018 10:44:16 pm
This idea is very interesting because this shows us that not only is Miriam's life unfair, but it's also doomed from the beginning. She is personally born into an unfair situation that brings her a lot of emotional turmoil in childhood and adulthood. But even more tragically she is a woman. And in her society, this fact creates the biggest problem of all. We see this especially, such as you stated, in her marriage. When her personal problem of not being able to conceive affects her, the fact that she is a woman makes it worse, in that her husband then abuses her because of this. These situations highlight the idea in this novel that underlying societal issues can sometimes be almost impossible to overcome.
Darsameen
3/22/2018 12:33:41 am
“When the pain got bad. I’d bite on a pillow and scream into it until I was hoarse. And still no one came to wipe my face or give me a drink of water…” (Hosseini 11).
Allysiah
4/2/2018 06:01:02 pm
I completely agree that it seems that Hosseini's point of the first part of the novel is to introduce his audience to women's suffrage in Afghanistan during this time period. It is quite strange, at least for me, to read this novel as a woman of the 21st century. We hear stories of times like A Thousand Splendid Suns, but it was not until reading this novel in its entirety that I understood the magnitude of the suffering women our age had to deal with back in the times when A Thousand Splendid Suns took place. I agree that it is truly women's suffrage as a whole that shapes Mariam, because if women were treated as equals there would have been so many situations where Mariam could have just gotten up and left her unfair life. But since she was a woman and women were treated as inferiors, she was trapped.
Zarafshan
4/5/2018 09:40:14 pm
In the first section of the novel A Thousand Splendid Suns, there are several occasions that introduce the theme of oppression of women; from male dominance in laws, home life, education and so many other aspects of daily life, it is clear the oppression of women is a dominant theme in the novel. For example, when Mariam is given away to Rasheed by her father, she pleads with her father to reject the idea yelling “‘Tell them. Tell them you won’t let them do this,’” followed by his selfish response “‘Goddam it, Mariam, don’t do this to me’” (Hosseini 49). This highlights the blatantly accepted male dominance present in Afghanistan at the time of Mariam’s adolescence. This is also the beginning of living to meet the reality of the prediction Nana made about her future: being made to do nothing but endure. After living with Rasheed for less than a month, he came home with a burqa for Mariam to wear in public, reasoning that “‘Where I come from, one wrong look, one improper word, and the blood is spilled. Where I come from, a woman’s face is her husband’s business only. I want you to remember that’” while truly wearing down her every bit of individuality and separating her further from the outside world (Hosseini 70). This example demonstrates the male power witnessed in female oppression, embedding in reader’s minds the cruelty these women were forced to endure. At the very end of the first part of the novel, Rasheed lashes out at Mariam for cooking a bad meal- though she claims to have worked specially on his complaint to avoid the criticism- while also releasing other agitations- such as her inability to get pregnant and produce him a new son- by forcing rocks into her mouth and breaking her teeth. “He shoved two fingers into her mouth and pried it open, then forced the cold, hard pebbles into it… then he was gone, leaving Mariam to spit out pebbles, blood, and the fragments of two broken molars” (Hosseini 104). Here it is clear that the abusing- both mentally and physically- of women was nothing out of the ordinary in the daily life style of the main character, Mariam; while living up to the sad expectations of her mother to endure, Rasheed is successful in highlighting the oppression of women as an effect of the dominance of males present in the novel. Comments are closed.
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