Primary Blog Entry: As you watch the film, "The Boy in the Striped Pyjamas," consider all the different ways the humans subconsciously and consciously invoke denial as a coping mechanism/survival tactic. Select two or three topics (single words) in which denial often occurs. List them, briefly define each topic, and explain how and why denial is so often found in the experience of each topic. ADD WORD COUNT AT END OF BLOG ENTRY!
Secondary Blog Entry: After you have posted your Primary Blog Entry, please read ALL of your colleagues' entries. Select two that interest you and respond to them in Secondary Blog Entries. You may agree or disagree and explain why, provide further examples and evidence, or offer an alternative way of addressing the topic. ADD WORD COUNT AT END OF BLOG ENTRY!
Primary Blog Entry Expectations (respond to the prompt above): 200-250 words, minimal errors in grammar and usage, thoughtful and thorough writing. Please use the assigned "pen name" given to you in class.
Secondary Blog Entry Expectations (read everyone's first responses, select two that interest you, and respond to their ideas): 100-150 words EACH, minimal errors in grammar and usage, thoughtful and thorough writing. Please use the assigned "pen name" given to you in class.
(3 total blog entries for this assignment)
3/13/2014 12:18:59 pm
1. One way we invoke denial is smoking. Even though it’s bad for you and your health, company’s still promote because they can get a lot of money from it. They try to make it seem like it’s nothing because of how the commercials look making it seem like it will make you happier. The only reason why it’s so addicting because of the nicotine in it, this doesn’t make it good for you. People that buy get addicted and can mess up your body in the long run, especially your lungs. Also the smokers are in denial that nothing will happen to them because they feel like they’re different in a way, and nobody pays attention to what start to happen to your body and you as you start to have withdrawals if you don’t smoke. See that smokers are usually the ones that are stressed out and something to take that stress away but only makes it worse because you can’t function without.
3/13/2014 01:02:08 pm
I agree with you number 11 because its so true that people are in denial about smoking. Commercials do make it seem as if its okay for you to smoke and in reality its not its like soda we drink it all the time knowing its bad for if you drink it all the time but since its soo good we can't stop. And same goes for smoking people like it so much that they can't stop because of course its addicting but it also gives them a different pleasure like believing they feel and act cool. its pretty sad and immature people still think that but its true and its reality. I also agree with the abusive relationships because I have seen it happen and its really sad and yes father figures are one of the causes for that,
3/16/2014 08:30:47 am
I agree with denial about smoking. People do it so much they don't even think about how it affects their health, and their life. I personally know someone who smokes not because he enjoys it, but because he has nothing else to do. When he's bored he smokes without even thinking about it. People are in denial about how smoking affects them because of all the commercials promoting it in a positive manner. Smoking makes them feel better I guess, which is so addictive about it.
3/16/2014 01:25:34 pm
I agree with student 11 because people do deny that smoking will hurt them. Personally I know many people who smoke and almost all of them believe that nothing will happen to them. The advertisements for cigarettes are out of control at this point and I feel like the advertisements help people deny that smoking is bad. The advertisements almost justify that smoking is in fact okay. Many people smoke because they have nothing else to do an smoking is glamorized on tv and such. All of these factors allow people to feel not guilty about doing such a horrible thing to their body, which puts them in denial.
3/16/2014 01:39:09 pm
I agree with this post one hundred percent. Smoking is something that many people are in denial about. People are in denial about everything to do with smoking as well. They deny being addicted, they deny how harmful and deadly it is, how often they do it, how much they buy it, etcetera. Many people are also in denial about abusive relationships because they’re afraid to be lonely. But, also because they refuse to believe that this person they know could ever be the horrible person they truly are.
3/16/2014 03:20:13 pm
I agree that there is always denial in smoking because people believe that they can stop whenever they want to. People who smoke tend to believe that they are perfectly fine but they don't see the affect that smoking had on there body until later in the life. Even when they see the affect it had they continuously smoke because it becomes natural to them.
3/16/2014 03:40:11 pm
I agree with statement 100 percent. Companies don’t give a damn about your health and that what they’re selling is killing people. But if I was owner of Newport, I wouldn’t take cigarettes off the market because people should know that they shouldn’t smoke cigarettes. Adults should know what they’re doing to their body. Also, the smokers who are in denial say to themselves, I am never going to be that person that gets emphysema. I also agree with your statement about denial in abusive relationships. In many cases, the females think that its their fault and that she startled him.
3/16/2014 03:48:51 pm
Denial in a relationship can also affect the men. There can always be a time when the guy ends up being cheated on or verbally abused or emasculated. There are also times when the guy can be threatened into doing he doesn’t want to do, but think that they’re doing It because their partner cares always saying to themselves “It wasn’t their fault, it was a mistake and they’ll never cheat again, they love me” or after being humiliated they can overlook it or for most guys being unable to speak on how they feel with their partner, and being afraid of hearing “Man up”,, because of this they can continuously hope for better but never have any improvements. Some of the strongest tethers to denial would always in my opinion will be romance and desire, and even when you know the truth your feeling won’t allow you to FEEL the truth. -152
3/16/2014 04:06:42 pm
I agree with this statement because all companies are doing are marketing their products so they can keep their businesses live. People in society today like a to follow trends that can sometimes be harmful. Since smoking is an addictive drug they will never be able to stop unless they put in the time. Smokers know in the long run they can contract lung cancer or many other terrible diseases but the addiction doesn’t stop them. Commercials advertised for against smoking are trying to get customers to buy their product to prevent smoking. But, local drug stores have cigarettes stacked behind the register counter just waiting for you to pick up a pack.(113)
3/16/2014 04:18:03 pm
I agree with student 11 when he speaks about the denial of smoking. Many cigarette companies provide advertisements on the pros of cigarette smoking, but often leave out the cons. While the ideal smoking life provides a fun social environment, the potential physical affects can negatively impact a life quickly. Smoking will give a person a short term satisfaction, but a long term physical toll on the body. Advertisement companies rarely shed light on the changes a cigarette can do to the body. After smoking a cigarette, the body becomes addicted to the nicotine, the lungs become worn & infected, and your organs began to shut down. When a person begins to notice these problems and begin to stop their habit, they experience withdrawals. A withdrawal can include flu-like symptoms which negatively affect a person’s abilities to act/feel like themselves. While this stage is able to overcome, it involves a significant amount of patience and motivation that some may not be able to produce. Denial will give an ad agency a sense of relief and comfort from the underlying reality that is happening upon them.
3/16/2014 04:38:51 pm
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3/13/2014 12:44:06 pm
3 things that most humans can be in denial about consciously and subconsciously are in relationships, life and parenthood; I chose relationships because sometimes in relationships a person won’t realize that they could be in an abusive relationship. It’s probably not as bad at first and the person can continuously say to themselves that he or she slipped or it’s not his or her fault because they were treated like that when they grew up but of course they are in denial and they don’t want to accept the fact they are in an abusive relationship and that things need to change even if you really love someone. Another example could be when a someone in the relationship is not putting as much effort as they used to and you constantly tell yourself that they are just busy when in reality they are starting to get bored in the relationship and your holding on because you don’t see it. Another topic a person can be in denial about is life, yes that’s a broad topic but it’s true. Some people don’t realize that they need to grow up and be independent but they think that they can get away with things just because of who they are, is denial it’s also ignorance. Another topic is parenthood. I say that because some parents don’t realize and can’t accept sometimes that they are going to be parents. Some people eat things and do things they are not suppose to because they think they are not. Denial can be a dangerous thing.
3/15/2014 04:54:50 am
I do agree with you. One denies he or she is in an abusive relationship because he or she loves the person. It's so obvious that sometimes we try to cover up things so that people don't know we are in a bad situation in our marriages or relationships. Most situations like this is out of love or fear. We just stay in that condition hoping it's just permanent, and having the perception that everything will be alright someday. Therefore, one denies he or she is abused. Much harm could be done as a result and regret would be what might follow the person
3/16/2014 11:32:37 am
I agree with what you said about life and parenthood for multiple reasons. In life we have that one period of time with our parents which is meant to prepare us for life. Sadly some people don't take advantage of this time to prepare, and instead they decide to fool around. They think fooling around and doing what they what without getting in trouble is going to get them somewhere. I agree with what you said about parenthood, because anyone can jump into this stage of life when they least expect it. This stage of life is nothing to be afraid of, but it's something that is worth preparing for.
3/16/2014 12:18:01 pm
I completely agree with your relationship statement. Those in abusive relationships don't know when to leave and they are in a mental state that everything will get better and in most cases that is not always true. The denial that is present in relationships is ever so strong most don't even know they're in denial and have to have a very rude awakening to even realize it. The denial that is strongest the most is that they believe that the one who is providing the abuse is doing it out of love when it's most likely out of spite that they are. (102)
3/16/2014 12:45:58 pm
I agree with what you said on relationships. Many get mistreated but think it's possible that the person will change. I think the person who is being mistreated is just afraid to let go of the person. They think they're not going to be able to find someone new and scared to be left alone. That's why they become such in denial of what's going on in thir relationship.
3/16/2014 02:31:49 pm
I agree with this one. The relationship part is very true because people are in denial about them all the time and denial while they are actually in one. Relationships are not perfect but there are a lot of people that are denial about a relationship that is not going their way they just dont want to say anything or come to actual realization. Life as well.Life in general is hard and some people cant come to the conclusion that will be on their own and that nothing will be handed to them anymore. They think life is just a walk in the park and that its just a easy ride the whole way.
3/16/2014 02:43:41 pm
I personally agree with this person because a lot of time denial is something that people don't even notice. For instance like the example given above, of an abusive relationship, people sometimes don't think that it's controlling A lot of times people don't even realize that their relationships are controlling, abusive, etc. They end up being blinded by their love. Also in parenthood, denial plays a role through how parents can sometimes smother their children and not let them grow up to be their own person. The parents' denial of how their kid grows up is a huge factor that can affect the child's life.
3/16/2014 04:37:11 pm
I agree with student 5 in the topic of denial with abusive relationships and parenthood. Abusive relationships will find denial as the first coping method to use to comfort their situation. Couples in abusive relationships will often hide or create excuses to distract the true conflict they’re experiencing. When a person in the couple is approached or confronted with the aspect that they’re relationship is abusive, they usually become extremely defensive to protect themselves from the truth. A specific mate would probably feel embarrassed to admit that they are being harmed or are in need of immediate assistance. The idea of love can also distract a mate’s understanding of their conflict. Even though love is an important portion of a relationship, it cannot be enough to salvage it if someone is being abused.
3/13/2014 03:23:25 pm
In life 3 things that people can be in denial about consciously and subconsciously are love, war, and friendships. I chose to talk about love because at one time or another in our lives, we all go through this. When some of us go through this we tend to be in denial of this because we probably don't want to admit that we're in love, and some of us even go through extremes to deny this. I chose to talk about war because through fate or choice some of us will experience it whether we like it or not. In war one must eventually face the fact that one needs to survive through whatever means necessary, even if means using denial as a tool. When using denail as a tool in war one puts aside any loyalty they had for their country just to save their own skin, even though they're denying everything they stood for. I chose to talk about friendships because it's something we all have and go through in our lives. Friendships are something special in life, and it's something to be cherished and enjoyed. However there is no such thing as a perfect friendship because we all have our flaws in life. Denial can tend to play a major role in breaking up friendships for many reasons. For example many people will do anything to surpass others or to save their skin even if it means denying their friends. Word count: 237
3/14/2014 04:45:11 am
Speaking of love, I agree. Sometimes we hide our feeling because we do not want to believe it, or we think we are making a big mistake. Therefore we deny it. I remember this guy who had a crush on me. He was never bold to express his feelings towards me. I also felt the same way for him, but we thought we might be wrong. Few days later, I guy approached me. He was my big sister’s friend. He was always nice to me when he visited. I liked him, so we dated. Now, my crush got to know about this, and he regretted of not wasn’t able to ask me out first. This is all because of denial of his love and feelings for me. Word Count: 113
3/16/2014 08:01:19 am
I agrree =) with everything. LOVE , War, and Friendships are the biggest denials people are in. Love is somethings that is beautiful at first but then it turns into a argument than, war between two people, same as war first stats as a discussion, then two countries are fighting believing that their right. and friends just need to find the right ones, some are brothers and some are your enemy undercover !. =)
3/16/2014 02:20:28 pm
I totally agree with this one because this is very true especially about love. I can relate to this one because i made my blog about love as well. Love is a hard thing to be in denial about and you are right about people being in denial when they are in love. It is a feeling that we cant control and a feeling that feels good and bad at the same time. Also about friendships, people will go through a denial stage to surpass another person and the other person wont even know anything. Love and friendships are two good denial topics.
3/16/2014 03:10:53 pm
I agree with you about friendships because many of us feel as if yes they will be there forever but your forever is only probably a year or so maybe longer. Some friends actually do stay forever or for a very long time. And when those friends come along cherish them because those friends are truely rare. And denial definitely plays a role in it. Also I agree with love because many people can't accept there in love until they actually sit and reflect and some don't. But I kinda thinks it's funny because you can't help but feel that way. Sometimes. And war I agree with some solders think oh it can't be as bad as it may seem but it definitely is. Some just join for the money not for the actual meaning.
3/16/2014 03:28:41 pm
I do agree with you that it’s hard for a person to say that they love or are in love with someone. I think the reason is, that they don’t want to get there heart broking or have that person not feel the same way about them. Especially for men where they have to show toughness, they don’t want to feel or show that they have a weakness or a weak spot in which somebody could use against them. Also what you are saying about friendships is very true. You need friends that you can trust or talk to when you need to. It’s always a good feeling to know that somebody has your back.
3/16/2014 03:55:26 pm
I think one thing we’re also in denial about is what we support. With war we always think “Oh we’re the good guys!” but the bias is we never see it from two sides. War is a so called necessary evil. It’s only this way because of greed and ignorance that we blissfully ignore in ourselves. One thing we’re in denial of mainly is ourselves. The ideas of who we are and what we can and would do in any given situation for example most of us would say “I’d stand up against a bully” but have we ever really done so. We’ve seen it happen and we will always see it. From schools, to law enforcements to the workplace, to businesses, even our own government can act as a bully. Is it something we just choose to ignore or is it someone we’re in denial off. The lines of black or white, and good or bad, could that be something we’re in denial of? -166
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3/16/2014 01:30:47 pm
I like the topics you've picked, they're very different from the rest. In a way I've always thought the same thing not just with friendships but relationships as well. So many times we dedicate our time, our love and affection to people that we find worthy of trusting. In reality we find that we were blinded by the good moments that caused us to take our guard down and trust them blindly. But we have to think that if we don't place ourselves in the position of denying the negatives we will never find friendship or love itself.
3/14/2014 04:31:53 am
Denial sometimes occurs in the society. Often times people are denied the right to knowledge of what is happening or going on in the society. They are being fed with wrong information of what is right and wrong. For example, according to history, Hitler painted the impression that the Jews were his fatherland’s enemies. Therefore, he treated them unkindly and with cruelty, but that was not the picture. The Jews were hardworking people; full of farmers, teachers, doctors, and these same people were taken to the concentration camps. Hitler did this out of his own selfishness and wanting to take over territories. Also, denial could occur in friendship. Sometimes, people have to deny their love for someone to be free or out of trouble. Friends deny themselves in order not to get into trouble. Out of fear or selfish gains causes one to turn against the other. For example, let switch to the bible. Peter denied Jesus out of fear and weakness. He kept his distance so as not to be identified with Jesus after Jesus was arrested. He found out that the world hated Jesus and he was not prepared to face the ridicule and persecution that Jesus was suffering (Mark 14:57-66). It happens in life. True friends stick together without denial or deceit. Basically, denial could be expressed in different ways; it could be in marriages, religion, etc.
3/14/2014 04:33:09 am
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3/16/2014 12:26:07 pm
I disagree with this statement. I don't think anyone is ever denied the right to knowledge in society especially today. If you would like the desire to learn then you have that right to go after it if you please. If it is a true desire that you hold in your heart you can go after it on your own. Knowledge is all around us and it is most certainly self earned. Society does not feed us wrong information it is up to us to choose what we want to listen and pay attention to in our societies advertisement as a whole (102)
3/16/2014 03:29:35 pm
I also disagree with that statement because you always have the ability to self educate yourself. It was likely to be deprived of an education back then, but now it’s impossible to be deprived of an education especially if you live in a first world country. You have the ability to depict if something is false or accurate. Also, in a first world country, you have access to millions of information and so educating yourself isn’t that hard. I do believe though that sometimes people are fed wrong information. In life though, people are always going to say bullshit to brainwash you.
3/16/2014 03:30:18 pm
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3/14/2014 09:03:30 am
Denial often occurs in a domestic relationship. Usually the female believes it’s their fault that they’re being abused. Or they’re scared to ask for help because of the intimidation put forth by the other partner. The victim will not only avoid admitting the abuse to their friends and their family members, but they themselves will not acknowledge the brutality that they are suffering from. They will fail to recognize that there are any problems between themselves and their partner. Or if the victim breaks up with their partner, they will usually accept them back because they will listen to the bull shit that their other partner is saying such as, “I’ve changed”, “I’ll be a better dad”, or “I’ve been going to church”. The battering partner will usually bribe the victim with gifts. Denial in a domestic relationship helps heal the pain.
3/14/2014 09:04:32 am
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3/14/2014 02:01:00 pm
Three things that cause denial consciously and subconsciously are appearance, relationships, religion. Appearance can cause denial consciously and subconsciously because, most people look at themselves and complement the way they look. For example some people deny having eating disorders and physical disorders to feel and seem they way they want to be seen. Appearance is a very complex topic in denial because there are many different things that people can say about you that cause you to complement yourself on things that don't really matter. Next is relationships, people deny many things in relationships. Most people deny distance in relationships, they make it seem like them and their partner are doing just fine but in reality they aren't even talking to each other. Another thing that causes denial in a relationship in physical abuse, some relationships that have physical abuse there is always denial from the victim because they 'love' the person. In reality they are living a real world hell. Lastly, religion. Religion causes much denial on a personal field. Religion causes denial to a human being they're not wanting to believe something that is not visible. There's something that make humans think that if you can't see something it's not there and this is one of those cases.
3/14/2014 02:16:04 pm
Denial affects people in different ways. Denial also leads to mostly negative things in the end. One major way that denial affects people would be in pain. When people are in emotional pain, they tend to deny it and act as if nothing's wrong. Males especially seem to act as if they're not hurt emotionally after breakup or something of that sort. Another way that denial affects pain would be the way that people try to play off physical pain after getting hurt. I think that it's a way to show that you're strong and if you play the part, people will believe you. Another way that denial affects people would be through love. People tend to deny flaws that their lover has, based on their love for them. It's similar to "blinded by love" but to me it seems like it's denial. For example, you're denying the bad qualities of a lover , such as being abusive or controlling because you love the silly little "good" things about them. This can be extremely negative and affect personal growth. I also think that denial affects people who are in violent relationships because again they're "blinded by love." This could lead to even more violence and many negative actions. Word count: 211
3/16/2014 02:12:45 am
I agree with student 24 because it is true that negativity is what mostly causes denial. Also denial and pain, it's true that most people if not all people do try and play it off. They try and play everything they feel off.
3/16/2014 02:15:05 am
..... Another thing that causes denial is love. I liked the fact that you used "blind in love" because that is hatoat people say when they can't seem to find a flaw with their lover or with their relationship.
3/14/2014 03:16:36 pm
Two things that I feel invoke denial in humans are drugs and war.
3/16/2014 05:19:36 am
Your denying that war does solve problems. Wars have been fought for freedoms that we obtain today. With out wars we as a country would not be at this state. We have to fight for what we want. No one will give you things because you asked. You have to take! The Nazi were a very immoral people but they made ideas that they thought would help their nation and were ready to fight. The USA made an idea and is making its greatest effort to make better lives. We can not say that wars are useless they make dreams come true. They make lives better and safer. People today have problems just fight for what they believe. People today want things set on there lap. That is not how life goes.
3/16/2014 06:06:50 am
The reason I added war to this discussion is because of the example with Elsa in the movie. Many people in real life can relate to this because the know the difference between right and wrong but fear that their lives (or the lives of loved ones) could be compromised. I do agree with you that wars can have great results, but that's only for the winning side. For example, what would you say to a woman who not only lost her independence, but her husband, son and brother? Sure a whole nation may rejoice, but I can bet that this woman wasn't the only person who feels like they lost it all. I don't know about you, but I've never heard of a war where both parties received what they wanted. That's because it doesn't happen. You have to look at a touchy subject like war openly because directly or indirectly, everyone is affected. In your example, think of all of the countries that the USA are taking over/controlling.
3/16/2014 01:44:35 pm
Only the strong may prosper. Wars come with a cost and everyone wants to win. In the end their only must be one in control. The USA has an idea worth fighting for and we as citizens must support. Wars are why we have freedom. Some people just have to fight harder. Its the real world you cant deny it. I wish for world peace to, but that's a dream its not real. Peace is only gain though war. Peace is only for a moment. Peace can not be defined.
3/16/2014 12:04:45 pm
I agree with alot of the things you said about drugs and war. Drugs are like alcohol, because for some people they look dashing and attractive on the outside. However some people tend to not look beyond, and that's why they end up becoming addicted to drugs. Once they're addicted to that drug, it's hard for them to set themselves free. I agree with alot of the things you said about war, because it tends to start off with a common disagreement. In the end it brings disaster to the lives of many people. Out of all the wars in makind's history, only a few have brought positive results.
3/16/2014 03:15:25 pm
I agree with most of the things you said about war and drugs. People who do drugs do tend to deny having an addiction and always say I can stop when I want to, which is a lie. War between countries are like two bullies trying to take the same thing from a nerd and they just can't come up with a reasonable solution. The denial in war always comes over territory or greed.
3/16/2014 03:55:16 pm
I don’t agree with this statement because the whole point of war is to fight for your freedom. Thinking of war in a negative way is you believe you have all the freedom you need which is wrong because then everyone would be equal. In the movie, there wasn’t necessarily a war going on, just a leader that everyone believed in. I do agree with the drug denial because people know it’s bad for you but they continue to do it for various reasons. They were pressured from the start to try now they can’t give up being so addicted. (101)
3/14/2014 04:07:24 pm
The things that invoke denial in human beings are relationships and drugs. Denial often occurs in abusive relationships because of the fear there partner puts them through. The person who is getting abused usually is in denial and thinks that they are doing something wrong or they are provoking the abuse they receive. Usually the women are the ones getting abused and they are to afraid to say anything to anyone because she feels there is no escape, so she goes along with it. Just like in the movie Elsa had to just go along with her husband moving and then when she found out what they were doing on the "farms" she wanted out but had to still live there and go with what her husband was doing.
3/16/2014 05:48:31 am
Drug addicted people deny life that why they use drugs in the first place. I do agree with this statement. Humans deny that they are addicted to something that makes them forget about what they must deny every day of their lives. Drug addiction is a very dirty situation. How can you deny something that make people feel good. Drug usage happens when you are a follower because you want people to like you. Drug usage also happens when you don't like how life is going for you. Pure pressure is a denial of who you are to make you look good in front of people.When people use drugs they are denying what they are. They are denying that drugs are not the right way to go to make a better life. Drugs are what our society once hated and now don't pay mind to and even encourage.Our government is now legalizing marijuana? Yes we see benefits, but what about how people will become addicted and destroy there own lives. We must see that drugs are bad no matter if others sugar coat facts.
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3/16/2014 06:53:09 am
@2x=52 x=? I don't know who you are but I agree 100% with what you said! Sometimes when women are in abusive relationships, they often feel like they are in too deep and it isn't worth dragging another person in to their problem. This is unfortunate because that might be the only way to get any help. In Elsa's case, her abuse might not have been physical, but it was definitely mental because she couldn't stand the fact that innocent humans were being killed in the farm and her husband was not only aware, but he was running the show! It's kind of sick to think about but it's the truth of our history as humans.
3/16/2014 03:22:47 pm
I do agree with you that drug addicts are in denial with themselves. Some people get so addicted that they forget that they’re using the drug sometimes because it’s second nature to them. It’s like denying there whole life because most people can’t even function without using the drug, or not their normal selves which is kind of sad in a way but that’s how serious it can get. Relationships I also agree with. The person that is getting abused usually thinks that they deserve it or the reason why their partner has to hit the person. So used to the role that they might not see something wrong with what’s going
3/14/2014 05:21:39 pm
Denial can be found in Death, heart ache and when one’s own humanity is at question.
3/16/2014 07:23:59 am
In terms of death, I completely agree with you. Many times, people don't know how to handle the death of their loved ones. They often take the grieving process way too long and nobody benefits from this. Grieving is an important stage to recovery but there becomes a point where it is just too much because people around you become affected. I feel like people subconsciously think that spending more time grieving will bring them back when it really won't. This is an unfortunate fact of life that nobody wants to deal with or go through but when it happens, you just have to accept it and move on.
3/16/2014 07:45:10 am
i agree with student #6 because when someone passes way, you still deny yourself wanting to hold them, not letting go, even thought they are not there with us any more. Thats why when a person is alive you should give them everything, at you can and want, because when their dead you have no regrets, o SH** should have done this or that, but couldn't or didn't. Live, Party, Experience new things, forgive quickly, and move on, Life is short to stay mad at someone, or remember things that aren't gonna come back.
3/16/2014 09:26:05 am
I agree 110% with death being a part of denial. From personal experience it is true that once you are close with someone and they pass away you really do not know how to go on with your daily life now that the person you were once so custom to seeing everyday is not there anymore. It's hard to cope with so much emotion and trying to be storm for that persons family also has a big toll on your life.
3/16/2014 07:37:29 am
Ways that Humans subconsciously and consciously invoke denial as a coping mechanism/ survival tactic. Mayor things that i believe that humans use denial is when they don't want to believe things, Wars and Love. People go to war but not mint know the main reason, soldiers just follow orders but the captain even thought they know consciously that they are not the right things to do. They are things that we just do subconsciously because we don't know whats actually happing around us, for example the kid in the movie he wanted a friend, but he didn't know if to be a friend with the jew, if it was right or not, he let it past. People fall in Love even thought they know they are going to get hurt. They do so even thought they have a good relationship of being good friends, and if something happens (break up) they lose that friend ship that they had before. They know that they are going to get hurt at the end and they still do it, thats subconsciously. A way that they do this is consciously is by knowing that they love someone, and knowing that the other person doesn't, and still be at their side. for me LOVE and WAR are the same thing, when you love your in war and when your in war you love, because you do things consciously and subconsciously. even if you don't want to think about it you get hurt in both and you do things that you know that you aren't suppose to do, you do them because of love and/or your told to, that if you do so things are going to change.
3/16/2014 08:23:01 am
People often subconsciously and consciously have denial in relationships and love. In love, people are in denial all the time. Whether they are aware of it or not, there is always denial in love. For example, a lot of the times when people are starting to have feels for someone else, they deny it because they’re scared of getting hurt by starting something new. I can agree with that because once you get hurt the first time, you start to not trust anyone anymore and when you find yourself falling in love again, you don’t want to believe it so you deny it. Being in love is a scary thing, especially when you’ve been hurt before but I think that people should give others the chance to make them happy and be there for them. Everyone makes up excuses but they’re really just trying to avoid falling in love. Denial in relationships is really common, too. If someone is in an abusive relationship, and feels threatened by their partner, they will deny it so they don’t end up getting hurt even more than they already are. They will make up excuses to protect their partner when in reality it is them who needs the protection. I feel like they think denial will keep them safe because they don’t want to leave their partner, but staying with them isn’t any better.
3/16/2014 01:52:11 pm
I agree with this post because relationships and love are often tricky and deal with a lot of denial. People do deny having “feels” (lol) because it is scary doing something they are not used to or are unfamiliar with. People also like security and knowing that something is sure fire before jumping into it head first. People tend to run from things that could potentially hurt them in the long run. With relationships in particular, people are often in denial when they aren’t perfect or running smooth because they don’t want people to know that they aren’t. Life is a competition for people to beat other out in. Everyone wants to seem like their better and more well-kept then others and that’s where denial often comes in.
3/16/2014 12:12:03 pm
Three ways that humans can be in denial subconsciously and consciously are in relationships,friendships and with their jobs. I define a relationship as a connection between two people that no one else around them understands. I believe denial is so often found in this one specific topic because everyone always questions their partner. For example if something is going to well and too perfect you always suspect the other person of cheating and "unloyalty" ,someone is always suspected of cheating. I define friendships as your personal diary that you confine in a living person. Now these relationships especially fail because we grow up and we grow apart from those old connections to create ones also rumors play a great role in this topic especially! To define a job i would say it's our main means of acquiring money . Our main means of getting the bills paid or something to provide for our luxury expenses. We have denial in our jobs because most of us think that it's the end of our road, that we aren't going anywhere. We dream big but most of us can't reach those dreams and so this makes us have denials about our goals and even end up switching them up. (206)
3/16/2014 12:29:06 pm
3/16/2014 01:32:35 pm
Denial is found in many parts of life. Things many people use denial in the most, in my opinion, are death and addiction. Denial is very common when it comes to these topics because people want to be strong and in control of themselves and everything around them. People hate looking weak. Instead of showing off their true feelings in times of struggle and hurt they put on a mask to hide them from others. With death a lot of people at first refuse to believe it. They choose to think that there’s no way someone they love and care about could be gone. They also tuck away and sad or even angry emotions they have towards it. People put up a huge front as if they are not even phased by it. As if it isn’t consuming their every thought or threatening to ruin their entire day just by thinking of it for a measly second. On the other hand with addiction, people continuously deny having such a dependence on something. Whether it be drugs, drinking, gambling, or anything else people will endlessly ignore the fact they are actually addicted at all. Everyone thinks they can control themselves. “Oh, I’ll only do it once. I could never become addicted; I would never let myself do such a thing.” However, in reality, people are unable to control themselves with things that are out of their control. Death and addiction are just two examples of a long list of those things.
3/16/2014 02:11:24 pm
1. We often provoke denial in a lot of things but there are two that mainly stand out to me the most. That is love and loyalty. People very often find themselves in love all the time and they fall deeply for a person. This love is the relationship love not general love. People are so blinded by it sometimes they are in denial of a lot of things that go on in the world and things that are right in front of their face. Especially when it turns out to be unconditional love. People will end up doing any and everything for a significant other but will be in total denial that that other doesn’t love them the way they love that person. People go about this everyday all around the world and change their personalities because of heartbreak.
3/16/2014 02:12:52 pm
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3/16/2014 03:41:37 pm
Humans are subconsciously in denial when they are in a relationship. They think their life revolves around one person when in fact it’s just propaganda. For instance, when your significant other and you get into an argument you take it out on everyone around you. Not even realizing it, you take it out on your parents who have been there from the start. These people walk into your life for a reason but might not always stay like your parents are there forever. Usually the girl in the relationship is the primary factor. Another thing humans might be in denial for is growing up. When you’re a teen that’s the one most important thing you look forward to. Coming to the point in time, you may be too immature and careless to take upon your own responsibilities. People often have to live the fear of living with their parents until they’re steady enough to live on their own. (158)
3/16/2014 03:50:14 pm
*******Humans are subconsciously in denial when they are in a relationship. They think their life revolves around one person when in fact it’s just propaganda. For instance, when your significant other and you get into an argument you take it out on everyone around you. Not even realizing it, you take it out on your parents who have been there from the start. Sometimes arguing can get more serious and turn into fights. The female can be abused and look upon it because she loves her significant other so much. These people walk into your life for a reason but might not always stay like your parents are there forever and from the start. Taking out your anger on others brings negativity into your life. Usually the girl in the relationship is the primary factor. Another thing humans might be in denial for is growing up. When you’re a teen that’s the one most important thing you look forward to. Coming to the point in time, you may be too immature and careless to take upon your own responsibilities. People often have to live the fear of living with their parents until they’re steady enough to live on their own. (201)
3/16/2014 03:54:49 pm
The three topics that were chosen that often show denial are addiction, eating disorder, and adultery. Addiction is when a person has an unusual frequency or urge to use or become in contact with a certain object, item, or substance. An eating disorder can be shown as bulimia or anorexia. Bulimia is when you forcefully vomit any food you intake and anorexia is when you starve yourself. People often deny addiction because they don’t want to be forced to quit something they enjoy to experience or they don’t want to be judged. An addiction can potentially affect the likelihood of survival, so it is important that a person with such a problem seeks immediate assistance to cope the correct way. People often deny an eating disorder because they believe that what they’re doing is not harming them, but helping them. They usually experience a more optimistic feeling of themselves once the starving or vomiting is completed. The victims also feel that once a person discovers the truth, they will be judged or mistreated. People who deny this disorder often have problems with self-esteem/confidence. People who perform adultery feel that what they are doing is not wrong. The performers of this task may receive a sense of pleasure or satisfaction with a continuous amount of partners. People who perform such tasks likely experienced some sort of trauma which affected them in a negative way. While determining whether adultery is wrong or not, denying it can give a person a level of comfort to hide from reality.
3/16/2014 04:39:57 pm
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3/16/2014 04:05:12 pm
Many people are in denial but can still fail to notice it. Some people always just want to believe that nothing bad will happen but when it finally does it comes as a big surprise. Some people form addictions and can never tell when its gone too far and when its finally time to give it up. Sometimes they see no problem in what they are doing is right and deny what others say because it's not what they want to hear. Smokers are an example because they know its a bad habit to start and they deny how much of a negative effect that it can have on you. Another form of denial can be relationships. Some people may believe that everything is going just fine and normal but deny anything if they were to find out that a loved one was doing something behind their back. Deception is tricky and is most often denied because they don't actually know the truth behind it. One of the most obvious forms of denial is choosing not to accept what is going on in the world around you. An example of this could be how during World War II the Nazi's were commiting mass murder of jews and everyone in the towns in close proximity denied what was actually happening even when there was ash drifting about in their town. Some things can be very obvious but people still choose to deny that it is actually happening and sometimes it is even to protect themselves from the horrible truth. (258).
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